by itabix | Jan 14, 2013 | eBooks
News important to gay readers came this week. Andrew Sullivan and his blog The Daily Dish have left The Beast and have struck out on their own. Henceforth, without what Sullivan calls a “sugar daddy” to pay the bills and without advertisements, Sullivan will host his...
by itabix | Jan 7, 2013 | Coming to terms with the past
Here, at the beginning of the year, it is important to remember several things. First, those who suffered during the years we spent in the wilderness. No matter how many victories we experience during this year 2013, we are still going to be living among our LGBT...
by itabix | Jan 1, 2013 | Assimilation, Victory
C and I were in a bar Friday night. I talked to a friend about the difficulties of using an iPad or Nook or Kindle outside its own ecosystem—on an iPad, you need to read books from the Apple bookstore, and Amazon books from the Amazon bookstore on a Kindle, and so on....
by itabix | Dec 26, 2012 | Assimilation, Victory
The goals are freedom and a community that is supportive.
by itabix | Dec 21, 2012 | Assimilation, Victory
Our son called twice yesterday, working out the details of a gift for his children. Our daughter came on Saturday and spent the evening here—I cooked, and she talked—before going to Logan to pick up a friend of hers. I have been corresponding with a friend in...
by itabix | Dec 12, 2012 | Marriage
‘Tis the season for it. Wanting things. But the question is really about us gay people and what’s happening now as we wait for the Supreme Court. A commentator this week makes a point about the effect of marriage equality on the behavior of gay people....
by itabix | Nov 27, 2012 | Elections 2012
The most interesting thing in the Times article by Micah Cohen, on the gay vote, on November 16, is that, among straight voters, the vote was roughly divided, 49% Democratic and 49% Republican. The gay vote, which was 5% of the total, was approximately 75% Democratic,...
by itabix | Nov 12, 2012 | Assimilation, Victory
There is a moment in Homeland, on Showtime Channel, when Damien Lewis, as Brody, sits at a table in a cell, supposedly in CIA headquarters, his feet chained to the floor, his hands chained to the table. Brody had been imprisoned for eight years in an Arabic country....
by itabix | Nov 5, 2012 | Barack Obama
Barack Obama has proven himself a friend of LGBT people. He’s a friend of the families of LGBT people, and he’s a friend of friends of LGBT people. He has done more for LGBT people than any other president. He steered the effort to overturn DADT, he directed the...
by itabix | Oct 25, 2012 | Elections 2012
Remember the Supreme Court. Remember how fragile is the majority in Roe v. Wade and the majority in Lawrence v. Texas. These are essential cases, defining the kind of nation we live in. If the Supreme Court reverses itself in either one, the place...
by itabix | Oct 18, 2012 | Coming out
Coming out—both the action and the word—differs depending on where you live. It seems it has always been easier to come out in coastal California and in the Northeast than in the South and the middle parts of the country. It has been easier in New York, Los Angeles,...
by itabix | Oct 14, 2012 | Coming out
Conventional wisdom would have us believe that the period before we came out, was a terrible place. The closet. Billeh, in the Daily Kos, quotes Paul Monette, who calls it a “hidden life,” and “half a life.” This is the way gay writers and politicians think about what...
by itabix | Oct 11, 2012 | Coming out, Uncategorized
As long as our culture is homophobic, many gay people are going to feel they have to come out. It’s an act of courage, self-defense and self-respect. But I don’t think we think often about what we do when we come out and about what it means. Few people think...
by itabix | Oct 1, 2012 | Fighting Back, Larry Kramer
Before AIDS, people got sick, went to their doctors, were told what to do, and got better—or worse and died—and that didn’t change until HIV had been among us for five years or so. Since the drug companies weren’t coming out with effective medications, and since the...
by itabix | Sep 12, 2012 | Anger, Fighting Back
I told him I didn’t trust therapists. The young man said he didn’t know why a person wouldn’t trust therapists. I reminded him that half my life the American Psychiatric Association had in its diagnostic manual that gay people suffered from various kinds of mental...
