by itabix | Mar 1, 2013 | Assimilation, Victory
I lived in New York for most of 1963, and one of my best friends was an actress, three years older than I, who had a major part in a major soap broadcast from New York. She was my cousin, and we had much the same background in South Carolina—conservative family and a...
by itabix | Jan 1, 2013 | Assimilation, Victory
C and I were in a bar Friday night. I talked to a friend about the difficulties of using an iPad or Nook or Kindle outside its own ecosystem—on an iPad, you need to read books from the Apple bookstore, and Amazon books from the Amazon bookstore on a Kindle, and so on....
by itabix | Dec 26, 2012 | Assimilation, Victory
The goals are freedom and a community that is supportive.
by itabix | Dec 21, 2012 | Assimilation, Victory
Our son called twice yesterday, working out the details of a gift for his children. Our daughter came on Saturday and spent the evening here—I cooked, and she talked—before going to Logan to pick up a friend of hers. I have been corresponding with a friend in...
by itabix | Nov 12, 2012 | Assimilation, Victory
There is a moment in Homeland, on Showtime Channel, when Damien Lewis, as Brody, sits at a table in a cell, supposedly in CIA headquarters, his feet chained to the floor, his hands chained to the table. Brody had been imprisoned for eight years in an Arabic country....
by itabix | Jul 6, 2012 | Assimilation
I recently wrote to a friend: “Like most peoples who are faced with the possibility of assimilation, many gay people wonder what they will be giving up in the process, and what they will be getting in return.” You see it every day in the city, watching...
by itabix | Jan 2, 2012 | Assimilation
What are we going to work for, after all of us can get married? And what, now that we have DADT repealed? Will they really accept us then? And will we be happy? What about the people who don’t get married? Or who don’t go into the Army? Who don’t want children? What...
by itabix | Nov 27, 2011 | Assimilation
C and I have just come back from the eastern Connecticut shore where we joined extended family for Thanksgiving weekend. We had good food, good conversation, a good sense of belonging—all the things that are expected of such a weekend—and then we returned to Boston...
by itabix | Jul 4, 2011 | Assimilation
There is a range of ways men can array themselves with one another, but most of the traditional forms of relationship depend more or less absolutely on the concept of ownership. The two people in the relationship own each other. They can’t have sex with anyone outside...
