by itabix | Jul 8, 2015 | Alan Turing, Barack Obama, Coming to terms with the past, DOMA & DADT, Life and death, Teenage Suicides, Walking wounded
When the state, or society, or the culture commits a wrong against a gay citizen, there are a number of ways that wrong can be corrected—a new law, a court judgment, a social movement, among others. What usually can’t be corrected are the effects of that wrong on the...
by itabix | Mar 16, 2015 | Celebration, Coming to terms with the past, Fighting Back, Freedom, The future
“A new survey out this week shows that support for marriage equality is at 59% with just 33% opposed. This means that marriage equality is slightly more popular than the Pope.” Matt Baume, American Foundation for Equal Rights. The link is to a video, with Matt Baume...
by poiNT76 | Jun 18, 2014 | Coming to terms with the past
Hillary and Bill Clinton, headed into the 2016 election, have to deal with what they did in the nineties. Many people have this problem. Senator McCain regularly acts as if he didn’t do what we know he did. Hillary was asked this past week about her views on...
by itabix | Jan 28, 2014 | Coming to terms with the past, Walking wounded
I was rooting around in my computer, looking for something, when I stumbled into the junk box and there were pages and pages of emails from a man I knew once, slightly, in school. He has gathered around him a group of our classmates, and these men communicate by...
by itabix | Nov 14, 2013 | Coming to terms with the past
Gay people have recognized for a long time that learning how to live in a largely straight society presents the possibility of assimilation, and assimilation presents problems, different ones at different times. Over the weekend, I was reading Gay Men at the...
by itabix | Jul 7, 2013 | Coming to terms with the past
It’s satisfying, having access to a right that everybody else has access to, and to have that right unencumbered by any factor. These rights are inherent and do not come from the Constitution. Justice Kennedy recognized that. We can get married. Our marriages are...
by itabix | Jan 7, 2013 | Coming to terms with the past
Here, at the beginning of the year, it is important to remember several things. First, those who suffered during the years we spent in the wilderness. No matter how many victories we experience during this year 2013, we are still going to be living among our LGBT...
by itabix | May 30, 2012 | Coming to terms with the past
I have been writing to a man who went to the school I attended my first two years of college. I didn’t know him then—1957-1959—and we haven’t written in the intervening years. Then, about a week ago, he found my page in a leaflet for our fiftieth class reunion. On my...
by itabix | Aug 8, 2011 | Coming to terms with the past
Life is tough, but it is tougher if you don’t tell the truth about it. The hardest part of growing up gay in the years after World War II was not knowing what the truth was. People lied to us and about us—people and institutions and organizations, governments and...
